In grief, we get different not better.

In grief, we get different, not better.

As your person adjusts to living with grief, it’ll be tempting to be excited about their climatization. You might be tempted to say things like:

  • “You sound better”
  • “You sound like yourself again”
  • “You’re looking happy again.”

Your person will never be the person that they were before their beloved died. Grief isn’t an illness from which to recover. Something fundamental to the fabric of their being will be different forever more.

A good life might grow around their grief, but it won’t be the same life as before. They’ll probably find a new equilibrium, but that doesn’t mean they’re better. What they are now is different.

My book, Grief Ally, is full of tips like this one & you can order it now.  This tip can be found on page 77.



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