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Grief Ally: Helping people you love cope with death, loss, and grief.

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I wrote Grief Ally for anyone who wants to show up to help someone they love after a heartbreaking loss.

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When you hear that your best friend, partner, sibling – your person – has lost someone that they love you’re going to be shocked. You’re going to panic. You’re going to want to do everything that you can to help them with the pain that you know they are experiencing. Unfortunately, despite your best intentions, a misplaced gesture or word can have serious consequences.

Drawing from first-hand experience and therapeutic practices, Grief Ally will teach you essential life skills that everyone will, unfortunately, need at some point in their life: how to console a grieving loved one. It’s written for friends and family members who want to support a loved one suffering a loss that they never wanted or expected. And with a flexible approach that anyone can learn and practice, there’s no excuse for you to be terrible at grief support.

Grief Ally is the answer we’re all looking for when someone dies and we’re left asking “What do I do?” and “How do I help?”

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Praise for Grief Ally

I have been working with people around the globe for the last ten years to better process their grief. Aly’s contribution will provide immeasurable value to those who want to help their loved one who is grieving.

Claire Bidwell-Smith

Author of "The Rules of Inheritance"

Most grief books are written to and for folks who are grieving. And I don’t know about you, but I find it hard to read about grief while I’m simultaneously swirling in the drain of it. This is why I’ve fallen in love with, Grief Ally. At long last, we have a grief book for those you aren’t grieving— for those who love a person who’s grieving, for those who want to truly show up, for those who don’t know the right thing to say or do and are looking or a better option than handing a person a book about their own grieving whilst saying, “Everything happens for a reason.” Aly’s voice and guidance for those who want to know how to best love and support those who are grieving is clear, kind and easy to follow. Grief Ally is a much-needed and long awaited addition to the genre.

Steph Jagger

Author of "Everything Left to Remember and Unbound"

Shared from first hand experience, Aly skillfully guides us through what it means to be an impactful, supportive Grief Ally. A job none of us sign up for, but when done right, makes all the difference in the world.

Robyn Woodman

Widow, Author, and contributor for Modern Loss and The Huffington Post

Aly has always been my person but I never expected our lives to be so true to the plot of Meredith Grey and Cristina Yang. If this book had existed in November 2019 I would have bought 20 copies and shared them like candy with her support network. Believe me, there isn’t a resource out there that’s written for friends like me who want help when life gets turned upside down.

Sarah Ditmars

(Aly's best friend)

“It has often been said that there is no guidebook or map for grief, and this is very true. However, when you are on the outside looking in at someone you care greatly about who is grieving, it is normal to feel helpless and not know what to say or do. And generally, when someone doesn’t know what to say or do around a grieving person, they do the worst possible thing – they run away. This leaves the grieving person feeling even more isolated, and adds to the cycle of people not knowing how to handle other people who are in pain.

There is no map for how to grieve, because grief has no logic, but wouldn’t it be amazing if there was a guidebook or map on how to love and support a grieving person? Thanks to Aly Bird, now there is! In her book: “Grief Ally”, Bird shares with the world all the things that need to be addressed about how we treat people who are going through a loss. Her advice is spot on, down to earth, and laced in empathy. As a fellow widow, I can tell you from experience that the thing grievers want from others, more than anything else, is compassion. This book offers up many beautiful and practical ideas on how to best love someone who is hurting, all served up in the most compassionate way possible. If enough people Aly’s important words, perhaps we will have a world where more people lean into the idea of supporting their hurting friends and family, instead of running away. “

Kelley Lynn

Comedian, Viral TED Talk Speaker, (soon to be) grief counselor, and author of the book "My Husband Is Not a Rainbow: the brutally awful, hilarious truth about life, love, grief, and loss."

Grief finds us all eventually, and yet, as a culture, we’re not great at supporting one another through the darkest hours. We say the wrong things, or worse, we say nothing and disappear. Aly has created THE guidebook for how to support someone who’s grieving — beyond casseroles and Hallmark cards. With tenderness and empathy, Aly teaches us how to be courageous and show up for grieving loved ones, even when it’s messy and uncomfortable. She’s given us the roadmap to a destination we’ll all visit someday.

Gina DeMillo Wagner

Author of forthcoming memoir THE GREAT DIVIDE (2024) and contributor to Modern Loss and The New York Times

I just finished Aly’s book, and I was blown away at her ability to explain how to support a grieving loved one. Many of you ask me what you can do when someone is grieving, so here’s my recommendation, READ THIS BOOK!

I also found myself in tears at some points in the book because I lost a few close friends over the grief of my friend and father. This book made me realize I wasn’t asking for too much. I was surviving. It added so much more hurt, which was SO preventable. Despite that, some people could hold me up while I figured my shit out, and I am forever grateful for them. I loved this book so much. ❤️

Angela E. Morris

Author of Love Notes to Grievers: Tending to Grief After Loss

Have you read Grief Ally? It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review on the platform where you purchased the book as well as on Goodreads.