Dating After Loss: You Don’t Have to Have It All Figured Out
If you’ve lost a significant other, you may have encountered this question in one form or another: So… are you dating again?
People ask out of curiosity, love, or sometimes just a lack of understanding. But for those grieving, this question can feel overwhelming. It assumes that dating after loss is a clear-cut decision—something you either do or don’t do, as if there’s a roadmap to follow.
The truth is, there isn’t. Dating after loss is messy, uncertain, and deeply personal. You don’t have to know exactly what you want. You don’t have to be fully “ready.” And you certainly don’t have to have it all figured out before you start thinking about it.
If you feel pressure (internally or externally) to have a decision made about dating, take a moment to reflect:
What are my fears about dating? What are my hopes?
Do you feel an openness—however small—to the idea of companionship?
What emotions come up when I think about being with someone new?
What kind of support would help me navigate this process?
Am I worried about how others will perceive my choices?
How can I give myself permission to explore without pressure or expectation?
This is why I offer a workshop on dating after loss—a space to ask and reflect on these questions in a supportive, nonjudgmental environment. Whether you’re single, dating, or just curious, you are welcome.
You don’t have to have everything figured out to start this conversation. You are welcome, exactly as you are.
You Don’t Need a Plan—Just a Safe Space to explore.






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